I don't know if this is a Utah problem - having spent my life here, save four consecutive months - or local, or maybe even worldwide. I've only become aware of it over the last few years. And all I can define it as is shirking responsibility.
I see it most in connection with Church callings, i.e. the "undesirable" ones. Scouts. Nursery. Primary. Parents are perfectly happy to drop their 2-year-old off for two hours and pick them up without even a "how was he?" (when I've spent all that time keeping him from giving another kid a concussion.) They'll send their three boys to cub scouts each week but declare they will NEVER teach cub scouts to anyone who might listen (or ask them to).
I understand the need for a break from your kids, believe me. I'd love to toss my kids at someone else for an hour or two every week! I'd even like to have a calling where I didn't have to bring them along with me. But I'm sorry, if you're a parent, you have a never-ending responsibility. And if you are slacking at church then someone else is picking up that slack. The less you do, the more you leave for someone else (however willing they may be). Please don't assume that it's easy for them, that they just love what they do and/or have a natural gift for it. They may very well be having a harder time than you.
Gosh, they may go home and eat all the junk food in their cupboard and then have a good cry before falling asleep on the couch. You just don't know.